About your children and jobs...

peter cornbriar · Dec 17, 2024

12/17/24

In this post COVID gig economy more than a few people work more than one job, and of those many work 2 or 3 part time jobs.
How about the BoB? How many part time jobs do your children/grandchildren work, (I'm sure they don't work those jobs for lack of trying to get full time jobs, either) ??
No need to mention kids names, just give us the numbers.

Merry Christmas
Peter

Timbo · Dec 17, 2024

My daughter works one part time job and sadly does not have the mental space for managing another due to ADHD.

peter cornbriar · Wednesday at 7:59 AM

12/18/24
Damn, there are more people with ADD/ADHD than ever before. I believe because people are just now finding out about the reality of ADD/ADHD through informed health care practitioners, teachers and, (Dare I say this), the Media. Seems everyone knows someone with this paradoxical blessing.
Quick, consider getting your daughter on meds! There are two groups" The "bad boy" meds, (Various forms of Cerebral Stimulants)), and a second class that come without the hassle of the "bad boy" controlled Cerebral Stimulants. Put a raging, antsy, high speed, kid/adolescent/young adult on a Stimulant and sit back and watch how this whirling dervish almost immediately becomes more organized and can remember where they put their mobile In fact, using stimulants is often used as a diagnostic tool. I'm Speaking as a Registered Nurse with years of pysch nursing experience, (And not blowing my horn).
My family line, and my wife's both have the genetic markers for ADD/ADHD. Double trouble, hard to avoid when both biological parents have the trait.
'Nuff said, message me should you want more info, or a a tissue to cry on.

Merry Christmas!
Peter

Timbo · Thursday at 4:15 AM

Thanks for that Peter, going through my own diagnosis for ADHD and autism currently as I've treatment resistant depression. Yay.

Hoping to get on some meds to actually allow myself room to think instead of constantly switching things up in my head. Still, I need to be diagnosed before I can get prescribed.

My daughter's concern is the cost of the meds, but if these help me at all, I'll pay for her meds if they work for me. I don't want her struggling like I did at life if there's anything I can do to help relieve things for her.

She does really well at all her jobs she's had, and is currently a manager. I did too until I had a mental meltdown at the end of August and am now off work on compensation as it was work that drove me to that point.

Your line about stimulants is telling, whenever I had amphetamines when I was younger it did nothing for me and I never got the rush from MDMA just the loved up empathy. (I know, I know, risk taking but thats an ADHD thing too.)

Saw a great description for ADHD brain. Imagine you're driving a car on a 24 lane highway that has cruise control that randomly speeds up and slows down and the car switches lanes randomly, sometimes into oncoming traffic.

You have meds and you switch to a four lane highway and you can control speed and lane changes.

Sadly describes my current brain perfectly.

MLBbreton · Thursday at 1:31 PM

Timbo said:
Thanks for that Peter, going through my own diagnosis for ADHD and autism currently as I've treatment resistant depression. Yay.

Hoping to get on some meds to actually allow myself room to think instead of constantly switching things up in my head. Still, I need to be diagnosed before I can get prescribed.

My daughter's concern is the cost of the meds, but if these help me at all, I'll pay for her meds if they work for me. I don't want her struggling like I did at life if there's anything I can do to help relieve things for her.

She does really well at all her jobs she's had, and is currently a manager. I did too until I had a mental meltdown at the end of August and am now off work on compensation as it was work that drove me to that point.

Your line about stimulants is telling, whenever I had amphetamines when I was younger it did nothing for me and I never got the rush from MDMA just the loved up empathy. (I know, I know, risk taking but thats an ADHD thing too.)

Saw a great description for ADHD brain. Imagine you're driving a car on a 24 lane highway that has cruise control that randomly speeds up and slows down and the car switches lanes randomly, sometimes into oncoming traffic.

You have meds and you switch to a four lane highway and you can control speed and lane changes.

Sadly describes my current brain perfectly.

I have personal experience with this. A lot of experience.
The meds are a solid choice if you have to work and integrate with people. They help me get work done and stop the mind racing. That said I call it robot medicine and it allows me to churn along with the rest of the people I worked with. But it's not an enjoyable feeling. I don't take mine unless I have to interact with a group of people. Farm animals don't care and dogs are walking ADD cases. Basically they're all a form of methamphetamine and ADD people don't get a buzz from it. They settle.
If you don't get the fancy timed relea$e versions it ridiculously cheap. The standard blue pills are a couple of bucks.
There are many mental tricks/tools that help. Just a little bit more work and no instant gratification. Some people love the meds so I would talk to your doctor and see if they'll help.
Don't let cost decide. They are not expensive.

peter cornbriar · Thursday at 4:11 PM

MLBbreton said:
ISBN-13

978-1400338610
I have personal experience with this. A lot of experience.
The meds are a solid choice if you have to work and integrate with people. They help me get work done and stop the mind racing. That said I call it robot medicine and it allows me to churn along with the rest of the people I worked with. But it's not an enjoyable feeling. I don't take mine unless I have to interact with a group of people. Farm animals don't care and dogs are walking ADD cases. Basically they're all a form of methamphetamine and ADD people don't get a buzz from it. They settle.
If you don't get the fancy timed relea$e versions it ridiculously cheap. The standard blue pills are a couple of bucks.
There are many mental tricks/tools that help. Just a little bit more work and no instant gratification. Some people love the meds so I would talk to your doctor and see if they'll help.
Don't let cost decide. They are not expensive.

I recently read a book by non-medical/psych authors that explains what it is and gives some coping/interventions. Authors - husband has ADHD big time and wife does not. Appears the wife does not enable him, (As if one can enable this), but helps him remember things. This book is written in a humorous style and at a school age reading level so most anyone can comprehend. Has illustrations also. Puts a positive spin on ADD/ADHD.
I heartily recommend this book!

Title: ADHD is awesome : a guide to (mostly) thriving with ADHD / Authors Penn and Kim Holderness.
ISBN: 978-1400338610
Harper Horizon, an imprint of HarperCollins Focus LLC [2024]

Though it's published in USA, I'm sure a library can get hold of a copy, or just do Amazon - comes in hard/softcover and kindle audio and amazon audiobook.

Timbo · Thursday at 11:46 PM

Thanks for sharing gents, talking about this stuff is so important to remove the stigma and shame that can be involved.

MLBbreton · Friday at 12:15 AM

I worry about my children. They are both well educated and traveled. Speak French and English. My daughter speaks some Russian and Chinese as well.
My son switched careers from a very high end bike mechanic to software engineer. He has yet to find a job and thankfully for me helps me on my farm/property. The stupid trend when I was an enterprise architect is still humming along. Unicorn hires. Only going to fill the position with an exact clone and better hire. No training.....No candidates.
My daughter was a high tech recruiter for a large company. Layed off and now is back in school again and works at Les Shwab. Luckily her boyfriend works at the state as an emergency manager.

I worry for both of them and most other "regular working" young people.
It's why I work everyday trying to leave them some dirt they can live on.

peter cornbriar · Friday at 1:20 PM

MLBbreton said:
I worry about my children. They are both well educated and traveled. Speak French and English. My daughter speaks some Russian and Chinese as well.
My son switched careers from a very high end bike mechanic to software engineer. He has yet to find a job and thankfully for me helps me on my farm/property. The stupid trend when I was an enterprise architect is still humming along. Unicorn hires. Only going to fill the position with an exact clone and better hire. No training.....No candidates.
My daughter was a high tech recruiter for a large company. Layed off and now is back in school again and works at Les Shwab. Luckily her boyfriend works at the state as an emergency manager.

I worry for both of them and most other "regular working" young people.
It's why I work everyday trying to leave them some dirt they can live on.

I plan on leaving my boys some dirt,too. Literal dirt- am looking for 10-20 acres land in the sticks I can build small cabin on.
Here's the pitch- any of you Pennsylvania boys know anyone got some land in the PA boonies for sale? I'm casting a big net.
Message me if you do.

Peter

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